It was the summer of 1994 and all I wanted to do was watch Pretty Woman, starring Julia Roberts, over and over. And I did.
Diary of an Undercover Fashionista
Monday, November 16, 2015
My Thighs Thank Lane Bryant
It was the summer of 1994 and all I wanted to do was watch Pretty Woman, starring Julia Roberts, over and over. And I did.
Wednesday, October 7, 2015
The Great Wardrobe Escape
Monday, September 21, 2015
My Charlotte Russe Lookbook
Sunday, September 13, 2015
What I Am Trying To Do
Monday, August 31, 2015
Laced with Confidence
Now let’s talk about what it took for me to take this picture. I kept going back and forth on taking a risk and showcasing this beautiful lace maxi with a swimsuit; or playing it safe and wearing a slim fitted dress.
I thought about the way I lived my life in the past--always playing it safe--whether it be in my career, my love life, or my finances. This was mainly due to a lack of confidence in my ability to do great things. Over the years, however, I have been slowly building up my confidence. So, I would be doing myself a disservice if I opted for the fitted dress, right? Right!
Sunday, August 23, 2015
My Skinny Friends
I was having drinks with one of my best girlfriends recently and the topic of “plus size girls with skinny friends” came up.
I told her about a recent conversation I had with Kim, a fellow plus size girl, about being the biggest girl in her circle of friends and the added pressure that comes with having to look extra good around them. Being the biggest of all my friends, I could relate to her frustrations.
This was a big issue for me in college and post-graduation. I missed milestone events in my friends’ lives because of it. “However,” I told Kim, “I eventually got past it because I realized the only person thinking about me being ‘the plus size friend’ and them being ‘the skinny friends’ was me. In the end, they won't remember what you were wearing that night that y’all had a blast. All they will remember was that you were there.”
If your friends cared only about how their clique is perceived, they wouldn’t hang out with you. Trust me, there are definitely girls out there who pick their friends based solely on appearance. People (who are not my friends) have suggested I get bigger friends because I seem “out of place.” But if your friends are begging you to be part of their adventures, they are not those type of girls.
So please stop comparing yourself to your skinny friends. You will not look like them (right now) in a two piece swimsuit. You don’t look like them in a dress or jeans or skirt and that’s fine because on the flip side they don’t look like you. You can only control how you feel about you and that the clothes you pick suit your style and body type so when it’s time to hang out, you feel confident about looking fabulous with your fabulous friends.
As my friend and I finished up our drinks she asked “Did someone really say you should pick bigger friends?" When I replied yes, she asked “Well hell, you’re supposed to hang out with a group of big girls just because they are big and be miserable? That’s dumb as f--k.” I always knew I had good friends but when she spoke those words she solidified she wasn’t the kind of girl who picked her friends based solely on how they look. I took her message to mean “I’m your friend. Period.”
Saturday, June 20, 2015
Crop it Out
I have come across quite a few plus size bloggers exclaiming how freeing it is to wear a crop top, and the fact that you are plus size should not stop you from buying one.
Me, in a crop top? Outside of my home? Never! Could I? It couldn't hurt to try, right? Isn't that what this blog is about? Trying new things and stepping outside your comfort zone? Why yes, yes it is.
So I did my research and learned that the best crop tops to wear are the ones that stop about two inches below your breast, and they are most flattering when paired with a high-waisted bottom that comes up right above your natural waist.
I love this crop top that I am wearing from Torrid. It’s lightweight and doesn’t cling to my body. I paired the top with a high waisted skirt (also from Torrid) that features ruching to camouflage troubling areas, and a slit for added sex appeal.
I must say this was a freeing experience. Feeling the breeze hit your exposed midriff as a plus size girl is one of the best feelings in the world. Try it, and let me know how it goes. If you’ve tried it already, did you like it? Would you wear a crop top again?